If you are living with someone who:
- always makes you wrong
- makes everything your fault
- never takes responsibility for anything
- never sincerely apologizes
- puts you down or belittles your feelings
- isolates your from friends and family
- showers you with love when they do something awful, and then do that awful thing again
- manipulates social situations with family and friends so they get their way... all. the. time.
- insists on controlling all the finances
- repeats the same fight over and over
- won't be direct or fully truthful, or worse, just lies all the time
...then, you need a place and people where you can feel safe, heard and seen.
Emerging Empowered within or from a toxic relationship is the goal.
Our Emerging Empowered Community is the answer.
In your life journey, you’ve likely met one or two of the relentlessly difficult, crazy-making folks I call Hijackals®.
That’s what has drawn you to this group.
I created the word, Hijackals, to describe people who hijack relationships–for their own purposes–and then, relentlessly scavenge them for power, status, and control. It could be a parent, partner, ex, friend, or co-worker. Anyone you're in regular, close relationship with who exhibits narcissistic, passive-aggressive, controlling behaviors and has a constant need to win and be right.
Toxic relationships are abusive relationships.
I can help you if you’re with a Hijackal, have left one, or were raised by one, with this low-cost access to resources, insights, skills, strategies, and support.
Journals and Discussions
Online journals - private and just for your own self-work. Twelve weeks of prompts per journal, themed around different aspects of Emerging Empowered from toxic relationships.
Online Discussion Groups
Join in the groups. Ask a question. Learn from others. Share your experience. The discussion groups work like Facebook groups, easy to use and read, even from your mobile device.
Dr. Shaler and her staff also regularly post ideas, insights, answers and resources.
Time with Dr. Shaler
Talk live & direct with Dr. Shaler 3 times every month via Zoom Video.
On the 1st Tuesday and 3rd Saturday, join in on Zoom for live group "Ask Me Anything" sessions.
Get your relationship questions answered and connect with other members, too. Members have full access to ALL monthly sessions.
Plus, on the 4th Sunday is Members-Only Sunday Seminars - a focused seminar around a particular relationship topic, with Q&A and chat afterward. The presentation segment of each seminar is recorded and archived for all members.
20% off all Dr. Shaler's online courses (new ones always being developed).
Download free Ebooks, articles, audios and videos ONLY for members. Be surprised with new content regularly.
AND, the exclusive opportunity to book single private sessions with Dr. Shaler, without a package. This is only available to members and past clients.
It’s a great question.
The simple answer is that, for many reasons such as time, relationship, or financial restrictions, not everyone can access private, one-to-one sessions.
It became clear to me that I had to provide another way for those struggling to break the bonds of emotional abuse to receive the valuable information and experience that I have to share.
I want to make sure you have all the insights, information, support, skills, and strategies you need to help you with your journey.
The Emerging Empowered Community is a very personal endeavour for me because:
- I care about you, your safety, and your well-being.
- I know how good it feels to have a lifeline when you feel alone with the pain, exhaustion, chaos, and confusion a Hijackal is so good at creating.
- I have been in your shoes, having had Hijackal parents and partner, so I really know what you're going through, and what you need to do.
- I know how it helps to get the best insights, strategies, and support when life seems exhausting and you're not sure what to do.
- I understand that it can feel overwhelming or hopeless when the help you need feels out of reach
- I want you to have a safe place and companions on the journey that "get it!"
- I want to help by offering you THREE opportunities a month to talk join in Live group Q&A calls and seminars. (INCLUDED as part of your membership.)
You may need help and direction right NOW! With membership, it's available immediately by joining in and talking with other members.
My work focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people I call Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity.
You've maybe already listened to my podcast, "Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships" or found my YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, which just passed 10k subscriber! (Wow, thank you!)
I have lived this experience of relationships with Hijackals... in every way. Parents, partners, exes, co-workers, bosses... I learned why I kept finding myself in relationship with these really challenging people, and have now dedicated my work to helping YOU move through that learning more quickly.
“Thank you so much for your podcast!! Your genuine care of others in taking the time to generate the information in this podcast emits itself so strongly!!! It has brought me to tears, helped me to identify behaviors, and finally given me the ability put a name with a face! I would love to maybe speak with you one on one at some point. ...thanks again! 💕”
“Raised by, and all partners have been Hijackals... after nearly 5 years of Severe verbal and emotional abuse, I’m out! I recommend you to women I meet who are in same boat. I’ve learned so much from you, the cycle is over!! Thank You ❤️
"These journals are a gift. Having that extra guide to help me sort out my thoughts, and really dig deep into where I stand brought me so much clarity. I feel able to move forward now!”
“The monthly Q&A sessions have been so great for me. I feel connected, and a lot less alone in my challenges. Thank you for that opportunity for community."
"I sincerely appreciate diligent and experiential experts like you. I owe you one for my going no contact with the Covert Narcissist both episodically and for good...The untold story is yet to be shared. I'm both assertive and positive.”
That is why we have chosen to provide a private sanctuary for you. This is a place for people who are struggling in relationship with a Hijackal - a relentlessly difficult, toxic person.
If the Hijackal is your spouse, your ex, your parent, your boss--or, someone you feel you HAVE to communicate and spend time with, or are not ready to release from your life--then, you are in the right place to get support.
Choosing to become a member also indicates that you have read, and understand, the disclaimer below.
Dr. Shaler reserves the sole right to decline membership to anyone she feels would be unsafe or create an uncomfortable environment. Dr. Shaler may choose to have a conversation with you before allowing entry to the Emerging Empowered groups.
To become a member of our Community, you must agree to abide by the following principles.
Members who choose not to conduct themselves in a manner appropriate to this space will have their membership terminated with no notice and no refunds.
Will I actually get to talk with Dr. Shaler?
YES. I participate in the discussion groups regularly, plus the monthly "Ask Me Anything" sessions and Seminars are live on Zoom. We can talk face-to-face in small groups. (You can choose to be on-camera or not.)
What if I want to quit?
If you decide this isn't for you, you can quit anytime. There is no contract. You can keep everything you've received up to that point, and you can always come back again if you wish!
What about my privacy?
Our platform is on a secure network, and not connected to social media. Content is only accessible by members and admins.
We recommend memorizing a unique password so that nobody else can access your account.
We do our utmost to monitor the system and keep you safe, however as we know, some people are very good at manipulating the system. If we discover bad actors, they will be immediately removed and banned from the system.
Do not share personal contact information - location, workplace or other identifiers. You are responsible for keeping your own counsel on what you'll reveal to anyone else here.
Can I keep what I write in Journals? and who else sees them?
Yes, you can download individual weekly modules, and entire journals at the end of each 12-week series. Journals are only accessible to you. They are not public nor sharable.
Subscriptions are non-refundable, but you can cancel anytime. Your subscription will remain active until the end of your most recent billing cycle (unless you are terminated for bad behavior).
Subscription & membership in the community is at the sole discretion of Dr. Shaler.
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