Is it Emotional Abuse? [Self-Study Course]
A self-study course from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, to help you recognize and understand behavior and words that truly cause damage.
What's really going on?
Second-guessing yourself? Questioning your sanity?
Is it ongoing & long-term?
Understanding what's emotional abuse—and what isn't— is the starting place.
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Wondering if it IS emotional abuse, or if you're making mountains out of molehills? (A Hijackal will always tell you you're too sensitive.)
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Experiencing moments—or longer—of wondering if you're actually "crazy" like they're telling you?
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Walking on eggshells at home, afraid to say or do the wrong thing, or get into any sort of conflict?
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Finding yourself frequently excusing bad behavior?
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Feeling worn down, torn down, or put down... emotionally exhausted?
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Something negative keeps happening in your life - people treat you poorly, you feel anxious before family gatherings, you're working late more and more because it's better than going home?
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Feeling resentful, anxious, angry and/or unsafe?
This self-study course will help you reflect on what you're going through, and understand it more completely.
Working through specific steps, with guiding questions to really dig deep, can get you to answers faster than just thinking it through alone.
When you're not ready to work with a professional, one-to-one, starting on your own with support can make an immense difference.
This course includes a carefully thought through series of prompts to help you dig deep and really consider things from all sides, so you know you're making sound, well-thought-out decisions.
The prompts are designed to help you organize your thoughts, reflect carefully on memories, and visualize your future - the way YOU see it, remember it, and want to live it.
Prompts are rolled out weekly, over 6 weeks, along with additional resources to support each set. You can work at your own pace, review, revise, add, expand, go deeper throughout the process.
You can work online, in a safe, secure, private space, or even print out each week's reflections to work offline if you prefer.
Who am I and what do I know about this?
I help the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people I call Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. I created the term so we'd have a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of relentlessly difficult people without psychological labels. I define Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”
Why?
Because I've been there, too. I had a Hijackal mother and a passive-aggressive father. As happens for most people who start that way, I became a Hijackal magnet. Oh, the pain, disappointment and... learning!!! Love-bombed by men who turned out to be looking for control, bosses who thought they could manipulate and manage in damaging ways, and even friends willing to take advantage, I have experienced them all. Not good.
Through all that learning, I found a path that allowed me to reclaim my power from people like that; to see them from a distance before becoming engaged with them. It was a long road, and a lot of people... but what I learned, and the strategies I developed for myself, have kept me sane, safe and sure it won't happen again!
The upside of coming from Hijackals was that I was driven to get away and to understand. Trained as a psychologist and mediator, I turned my attention to figuring out why there had been no help when I needed it, and what that help could have looked like to be effective. Understanding the sneaky nature of emotional abuse led me to a Ph.D. and ongoing work and research into the ways that emotional trauma impacts both the Hijackal and their prey.
I made it my mission to help people recognize the signs of emotional abuse, realize the impact on their lives, and have the paths to recovery. I share that with clients and members worldwide.
Through my Emerging Empowered consultations, courses, and community I've created a safe place for you to be understood; to recognize what's happened and happening in your relationship(s); and to gain the insights, skills, strategies, and support to move forward in healthier ways, reclaiming your personal power.
