Empowerment Group: Executing My Exit
So, you're ready to leave. Now what?
Max 8 participants. Starts February 16, 2023.
Now that you've made the decision, though...
Finally leaving a toxic relationship isn't as easy as it sounds.
There are lots of things you'll need to think through, plan, prepare, and navigate in order to execute your exit successfully... and as painlessly as possible.
Having a guide, and a support network, will help you get through the process more smoothly.
This small group support program offers that expert guidance, from someone who has been through it, multiple times! Me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.
More than simply dedicating my career to understanding how to navigate Hijackals, I have actually lived through a number of them. I KNOW what you need to do to end that type of relationship and move on to you new life, without Hijackals.
And, even more, how to STAY out of relationships with Hijackals as you continue forward!
Let's work together to build your exit strategy. A plan you can stick to, that will keep you safe, and finally free to rebuild your life.
Leaving a toxic relationship is HARD. Do it with help.
Second-guessing? Feeling guilty? Afraid you won't be able to make it on your own?
Your journey away from a toxic relationship will be filled with all those thoughts and more.
A valuable tool in your process will be having folks on your side... people who know your path and can validate your thinking, and help you stay the course.
My Empowerment Groups provide that - small groups of up to 8 people, going through similar steps to get to a similar end: finally leaving a toxic relationship.
THREE live group zoom sessions plus there's a 24/7 online discussion group so you can share what you're going through at any time.
In this course, you'll be supported with guidance to:
- choose an attorney, by knowing the right questions to ask to find a Hijackal-informed one
- gather the appropriate information in document form
- know the outcomes you want from ending the relationship
- clarify what you want regarding custody, assets, and/or financial separation
- have the clarity and strength to negotiate when a Hijackal wants everything
- know how to healthily respond to Hijackal crazy-making during your exit keep moving forward, even when you have moments of doubt
- answer your children's questions in the most age-appropriate ways
- reflect on life after exit, regarding communication and/or co-parenting
- AND see it all through!
NOTE: Dr. Shaler is not a lawyer. She does not offer legal advice, only guidance on how to be prepared when you get to a lwayer
Connect with me, Dr. Shaler, and a private small group, live, over six weeks.
Our Empowerment Groups are about getting the right tools and strategies to make good decisions for your own safety and sanity, and getting the support of a group who knows what you're going through.
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Talk real-time with Dr. Shaler. Three bi-weekly 90-minute group sessions, live on Zoom
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Work together and independently through online content and a private journal
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Get the insights and support you need, in the cohort-only discussion group, available 24/7
Instructor(s)
Instructor Bio:
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler was a champion for the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she called Hijackals®—to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She created the term so we'd have a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of relentlessly difficult people without psychological labels. She defined Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”
Why?
Because she had been there, too. Dr. Shaler had a Hijackal mother and a passive-aggressive father. As happens for most people who start that way, she became a Hijackal magnet. Oh, the pain, disappointment and... learning!!! Love-bombed by men who turned out to be looking for control, bosses who thought they could manipulate and manage in damaging ways, and even friends willing to take advantage, she experienced them all. Not good.
Through all that learning, she found a path that allowed her to reclaim her power from people like that; to see them from a distance before becoming engaged with them. It was a long road, and a lot of people... but what she learned, and the strategies she developed for herself, kept her sane, safe and sure it wouldn't happen again!
The upside of coming from Hijackals was that she was driven to get away and to understand. Trained as a psychologist and mediator, Dr. Shaler turned her attention to figuring out why there had been no help when she needed it, and what that help could have looked like to be effective. Understanding the sneaky nature of emotional abuse led her to a Ph.D. and ongoing work and research into the ways that emotional trauma impacts both the Hijackal and their prey.
Rhoberta made it her mission to help people recognize the signs of emotional abuse, realize the impact on their lives, and have the paths to recovery. She shared that with clients and members worldwide. Dr. Shaler left this mortal plane in April 2024, knowing she had fulfilled her mission, and now, we continue to spread her mission.
This course catalogue was started by Dr. Shaler and continues to be available as a legacy of learning, managed and maintained by her daughter and career-long business manager, Kera.
